New Year, new start - new you

The New Year has thankfully put the very tumultuous 2020 behind us; but, what will 2021 bring? Only time will tell. If you are separating from your partner, it could be another very significant year for you. It is therefore very important that you have the support and advice you need to help you through such a challenging time. 

It is sad but true, that many couples experience cracks in their relationship at this time of year. Some may have avoided addressing their failing marriage sooner so as not to spoil Christmas; whilst others will have found that extra time spent with their spouse during the break, plus the added pressures the festive season brings, confirmed how unhappy they were.

Whatever the situation that led you to read this article, rest assured we are here for you. We have a great deal of experience in helping anyone caught up in this scenario – whether you are the person looking to move things forward, or have been faced with something you really didn’t expect.

In either case, here are some constructive suggestions from our family law team to help get your New Year off to a positive start:

Consider couples counselling. It might be possible to save the marriage or improve communications.

Choose your lawyer carefully. A recommendation from a trusted friend, relative or colleague is worth a great deal. Also look for accreditations from reputable organisations that undertake independent reviews, such as Legal 500 and Chambers & Partners.

Make sure your lawyer is a member of the organisation with the perfect name for January: Resolution. All members of this nationwide group subscribe to a Code of Practice which commits them to resolving disputes in a non-confrontational, constructive way designed to preserve people’s dignity and to encourage agreements.

Consider a collaborative divorce. A growing number of family lawyers (including three at Goughs) are trained specialists in this process, which commits to resolving disputes respectfully, for the benefit of the whole family, without involving the court.

Listen to your lawyer’s advice. You are investing in his or her expertise, after all. An experienced family lawyer will always give realistic guidance. Remember that personal issues which are incredibly important to you may not carry much, or any, weight in divorce.

Be honest with your lawyer and your spouse about money. Don’t try to hide assets, or understate the value of what you have. Doing this is likely to delay progress, cost more in legal fees, and could lead to a carefully structured settlement collapsing when the truth comes to light.

Don’t involve the children. Hopefully they will enjoy a happy relationship with both parents if they’re not pushed into taking sides after a split.

Be patient. Divorce takes time – often you will be waiting for your spouse to respond to communication, or for the court to deal with a procedure. It can sometimes seem interminable, but you will get there.

• And finally – be positive. There is life after divorce. You will benefit from the support of your family and friends, and there are many excellent therapists and support groups available. At Goughs we take pride in getting to know our clients and guiding them through the legal maze. 

To find out more please contact a member of our Family team who will be happy to help, or you can arrange your free initial consultation by clicking here,